The cognitive model of revenge works in three steps they independently or collaboratively contribute to revenge.
A) Violation of should or must – Gandhari says to herself that “I must never be betrayed by anyone, at least from a king who is supposed to give justice must not betray” This independently is enough to contribute to revenge. But it can be flanked with more irrational beliefs like Awfulising.
B) Awfulising / terribilising – here Gandhari exaggerate the negative consequences of the violation of the should/ must. May be “It’s very bad that it all has happened with me”
C) Blaming – she now starts the blaming and personalizing that ” this all is the fault of the other person” and people around like shakuni just enforces social cooperation.
With the combination of these beliefs can contribute to revenge an act of anger, hurt and power. So cognitively if you see most of the process of revenge happens in your brain giving you a choice. Well, if one can’t moderate the thoughts and modify the action of revenge remember
“Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves.” Confucius
Reference* Yuganta – Iravati Karve
Beyond Revenge: The Evolution of the Forgiveness Instinct
Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond
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