This is when I was 15 and my dad gave me a thick book. Well, I was an avid reader by that time. I read the title of the book "Sex & Human Loving " and had a mix emotion of surprise, shame and anxiety. Why am I getting this book ? I know what sex is I am fifteen. Thoughts started popping up automatically in my mind. My dad said " it's a good book one must read it". No much explanation or clarification from him actually made me feel less anxious and handle embarsment. As if it's a ritual in our family for generations to give this book to your teenage son. He kept it very simple and short, explanations for teens are a big put off.
The first line of the book hooked me till the climax (of the book I mean), it reads "Every person has sexual feelings, belief, ,attitudes,but everyone's experience of sexuality is unique it is processed through and intensely personal perspective. "* And I remember by the end of the book I was technically more smart about sex.
In India we don't talk about sex we just do it. The Indian parents views about sex education is "what's in there to teach about it?". They will learn like we learned it from our friends and instead of video cassettes they might learn it from cds or internet. Well, rather than learning from magazines like maastram or movies like Pyasi Jawani (indeed entertaining) there are scientific books that can give a realistic approach to sexuality.
"If you don't teach about sex to your child, stray dog on the road will teach him or worst a creepy neighbor "
Well, I don't know what's the right way to teach about sex in the country where a science teacher skips page 57-58 of human reproductive organs out of embarrassment. But for me the book my dad gave worked. We already are crawling backwards in our mindset about sex. In a country where kamasutra originates we ban a movie with the same title. When Eros is very free in world to roam, kamdev has limited access. Let's not take the feathers of kamdev's peacock and break his arrows. Let him aim like Eros. Read Sex & Human Loving and gift it to your teenager. Comment how you handled talking about sex to your teenager. And what can be done differently.
*Quote Sex & Human Loving
Himali Kelvekar, Student of English literature with a minor in communication, media and Psychology at christ university, Bangalore with a on-ground work experience in content writing ,editing,designing and public relations.
Sahil Takshak A student of Delhi University. Writing is my first love. Passionate about fitness, travelling, human psychology, cooking, politics, music, movies and books.